Mom lost her job that week. Her boss told her taking care of me was the nurses job and she belonged at work. Mom told them she wouldn't leave me alone at the hospital and they told her she didn't have a job to come back to. She worked for a dermatologists office. You would think that a doctor would be more understanding, but the doctor was not, and mom gave up her job for me. It is a memory that I have treasured. When she passed away in March of 2006, I was asked to share a story about my mom and I. This was the story I chose to share. My mom loved her children and would do anything for them, even give up the job she loved to sit next to me laying in a hospital bed.
|In the ER feeling miserable.|
|after surgery and recovery room stay. Watching cartoons in her room.|
There was one moment when I got to sit and share my story of my mom and my experience with appendicitis. Felicity looked at me while we were sitting in the ER waiting to go up for surgery, knowing she would be staying overnight at least. She looked at me with tears in her eyes and said "but I don't want to be alone." She thought that I would have to leave her at the hospital over night all alone. I told her all about my mom and how she gave up her job to sit with me. And I said felicity I will not leave your side except when you are in the OR.
|Feeling a lot better on Saturday morning.|
It was an interesting experience for me. There are few opportunities when I can specifically tie my mothering into my mothers. I see a lot of my mom in the way I mother. But for me to sit by my daughters bed while she was suffering and recovering from appendicitis was eye opening for me. My mom loved that job, as I recall. I only spent 2 days in the hospital with Felicity, but I would have spent more and I would gladly give up any job to do so. It is kinda fun being my mom. I am glad I have this sweet, sweet memory with my mother to tie into my experience as a mother.
|Pretty sure Mom was with Felicity during surgery, just like she |
was her first week of life, and just like she was with me.
|My mom, my girls and I August 2005|